Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Sweat 'till you can't sweat no more

I was doing Bikram yoga the other day. It's a kind of yoga where you hold these poses in an 105˚F room with 40% humidity.

It was hot. I was soaked.
I mean, my shins were sweating. And I am not the kind of girl who gets shweddy shins.

Anyway, as I contorted and cursed, this is what went through my rapidly shriveling mind.

No. Just--no.
So somewhere between the Triangle pose and the No pose, I had a blogging revelation. 

I didn't have enough bodily fluids left to think clearly. But more importantly, I didn't have enough bodily fluids left to blog. 

I've felt horribly guilty about not keeping to my blog schedule recently. I've tweeted about it; I've stayed up late worrying about it. My stress level has been though the roof for multiple reasons (hence my attempts at finding Zen via body-wringing Bikram).

I've been blogging for nearly two years. Back then, I decided that I'd commit to a thrice weekly blogging schedule, and I stuck to it almost every week. But my own rules have come to bite me in the butt, because they've caused lost sleep and ignoring things that have been important to me.

And so--this hurts for me to say, because I'm a stick-to-my-obligations kind of person--you may see me blog a bit less in the coming months. *deep breath*

I promise I won't disappear. 

But I will promise that when I blog, it's because I'm doing it with joy, and not as a dry obligation.

You guys deserve that.  And so do I.


What about you? Have ever had to cut back on blogging, or had a major shift in your blogging goals?


Please drop by Laura Diamond's blog where she answers my question this month for the Sisterhood of the Traveling Blog: Outside of your writing friends, do other people (work, family, friends) know you blog? What do they think of it? I'm up next week!


Richard said...

Yes, I've had times when I just wasn't as into blogging as I was previously, but it's always come back. So I don't worry about it. Sometimes less is more.

Old Kitty said...

Oh yes!! When I first started I was posting two -four times A DAY!! LOL! Now I've cut back to one blog post once a week and try to cut back on my commenting on weekends. It truly can get all too much!!

OH but your yoga is amazing! Wow and OUCH! But it's good for you!

Take care

Em-Musing said...

Blogging comes's the following back that I fall short on. Makes me feel bad. Also, I never committed to a blog schedule, because then it would feel like work. LOVE your cartoons.

Anonymous said...

I've been cutting back, too. And these past two weeks I cut back even more, without even realizing it - too much stuff going on in life to even be able to think about blogging. For me, I would rather read infrequent but good posts than a post every day that says absolutely nothing. So, I figured, why don't I blog that way?

So that's what I'm trying. And I think it's awesome that you're letting go of your guilt and doing what's best for you and for your blog. And I'm kind of in awe over your yoga abilities - I couldn't even do one of those poses.

Anonymous said...

I am definitely going through a desert experience at the moment in relation to words, or to be more accurate, the lack of them. I called my blog 'Passionatemusings' because writing has been the one aspect of my life which I didn't have to 'work' at. If I was to post anything at the moment it would be forced and lacking an emotional connection. I believe the words deserve much more than that. Be true to yourself I say...writing out of a sense of obligation can compromise the great love we have for this wonderful gift. Best wishes.

Natalie Aguirre said...

I only blog usually once a week because it feels like all I can handle. These next few months I'll be blogging more to spotlight some extra books. But then I'm going back to the once a week. Because with reading others blogs, I've got to have time to write. Don't feel bad about cutting back though maybe pick one or two days a week that you will blog so we know when to look for you.

Rachna Chhabria said...

I too am thinking along the same lines that for some time I should blog just once a week. There are too many things vying for my attention and I hate not being able to visit the blogs that I normally visit.

Kimberlee Turley said...

I'm really not particular that someone stick to a schedule. I'd rather read meaningful posts than something just thrown together for the sake of "I need to post something." (Haven't gotten that vibe from you FYI, but just saying in general...)

storyqueen said...

Do not feel bad about cutting yourself some slack. You deserve it.

and good on you for keeping up with the yoga!


B.E. Sanderson said...

I've been a blog slacker lately, but then again, this is the time of year when I pretty much slack on anything creative. But, now it's April, and the slacking has to end. I wouldn't worry about it, if I were you. You've got a lot on your plate right now, and whether you blog once a week or three times a week, I'll still stop by when you do post. (Even if I don't always comment.)

Barbara Watson said...

IT'S OKAY! (I'm shouting that to you through the blogsophere).

I began with no schedule. Didn't work for me. Then three times weekly. Too much. Now Mon-Th and it's superb. Enough but not too much. And I still cut back when I need to.

Slamdunk said...

Hang in there Dr.

Yes, my blogging schedule has been adjusted several times due to life. For anyone who blogs, the more you do it, the more work it becomes.

Shelly said...

You are a wise woman to find what works best for you. I'm downshifting my blog posts because I don't want to bore everyone with posting too often.


Coleen Patrick said...

Yup. I was blogging 3 times a week, but it made me a little crazy. And sweaty (and there wasn't any yoga involved). Now I am at twice a week, but I don't know if I can keep that up either. Anne R. Allen has a great post on slow blogging. :)

Anonymous said...


It's a lot to keep up with! I think it's fine to scale back and reassign your time to where it's needed.

Clarissa Draper said...

Don't feel bad. I've had to do the same thing as well. I've always felt guilt when I couldn't get blogging done on schedule (obviously the type A personality coming out) but I just wasn't enjoying it because I was so stressed. I feel much better now I've taken the rules away from myself.

Connie Keller said...

I'll miss the posts. But you're doing the right thing.

BTW, I'm so impressed with the yoga. I can't imagine staying sane in that kind of heat and humidity.

Cynthia Chapman Willis said...

I've gone from blogging twice a week to once a week. I felt a bit guilty about this transition, too, but stressing over blogging (and losing sleep) is not good. Not. Good. Even twisty, sweaty yoga can't make up for that kind of not good. Cheers to smart decisions!

Ghenet Myrthil said...

Good for you for sweatin' it out in Bikram. I couldn't do it. I complain when I'm slightly too hot so I think I'd die in those conditions!

As for blogging, it seems a lot of people are going through this lately, including me. Lots of people are cutting back, and for good reason. There's a lot to juggle! I wouldn't worry about cutting back on your blogging schedule.

Heather said...

A brilliant revelation. Yoga is fantastic for that, isn't it?! I have cut back and there are days when I don't post (though I never go a week without posting) because I'm just too busy. I think it's wise to cut back now and then so you can focus on what you need to.

Critique Sisters said...

Yoga works wonders. Don't worry, we won't mind if you cut back. It's completely understandable!

A Lady's Life said...

yes it definitely is a lot of work and sometimes you just run out of things to say but you keep trying and then you get inspired again.

Casey L. Conley said...

Yes, you must enjoy blogging!

I hope things align into a happy balance for you with out too much need for Twizzlering. :)

Also, I love your cartoons... you're so funny. :D

Carrie Butler said...

Hah! I always love your illustrations. :D

As for the blogging schedule, don't sweat it. (*Grins*) Seriously, we've all been there. Take all the time you need. :)

Carol Riggs said...

Haha! Great illustration for the Eagle. I've actually done that pose...a long time ago. The legs are drawn quite accurately. LOL (But I didn't hold the pose in schweddy conditions.)

Nah, don't feel guilty. Even once a week is PLENTY of blogging. I find it difficult to do that, even, sometimes!

Deb Salisbury said...

Hugs! Blogging because you feel obligated is pure misery, and it's not worth losing sleep over.

Your blog is on my Google Reader, so I'll be keeping an eye out for you when you write for the joy of it.

Krispy said...

Lady, I get blog guilt all the time, so I feel you. But sometimes other things in life (like evil colds) come along and really just kick you in the teeth, and blogging has to fall by the way side. Don't feel bad. Like you said, blogging should be fun!

Gloria Richard said...

This is eerily timely, Lydia. Today was the day I came to believe the world of bloggers would survive and thrive if I took a blog vacation.

From reading and commenting on them.

From writing and scheduling them.

I had cut my posts back to once a week because I wanted my readers to be able to depend on the content they found. That put another type of pressure on me.

I didn't read posts today, but saw yours and thought, "I haven't visited Lydia lately. It's brain shut-down time. I'll see what Lydia's up to."

My "gone fishing" post goes up next week. When, I come back after my April hiatus, I hope to have a solid blog voice and a solid manuscript and a fresh mind when I return.

KUDOS on your decision.

BECKY said...

Oh, of course, Lydia! And as busy are YOU are, I don't know how you've managed to do it all this long. Please do whatever is BEST for YOU! Being stressed about your readers is just not worth it!! We will read whatever you post, whenever you post! Honest! Be good to YOU!

Leslie Rose said...

I knew from the get go that a once a week post was all I could handle. Even with that paltry blogging schedule, there are still days where I barely get my post written. Yikeser. I like your philosophy. Why write it if it's forced. No fun there.

Anonymous said...

Oh, your illustrations just crack me right up! I partake in Bikram torture on rare occasions and can completely relate to the "schweddy shins" of which you speak. Oy.

I can't relate to how much pressure blogging three times per week is, however. I can't even commit to once per week, although I try. The most important thing is that you enjoy doing it. I'm so glad you're cutting yourself some slack, because you bring lots of joy to your readers and we don't want you to stop.

jaice john j said...

hai Lydia,
follow each other..!

kind regards,

linda said...

I think it's awesome that you're reevaluating and doing what works best for you now. I'm terrible at blogging consistently and it always makes me feel guilty -- I've even considered just shutting down my blogs -- but I'm always so proud of myself when I do manage to post something, haha. So yeah, I'll probably just continue to post when the mood strikes. :)

Sari Webb said...

Lydia, we'll still love your blog even if you're around a bit less. There's no point doing it if you don't love it! I did a post slightly related to this today, for the A-Z. E is for Exhaustion!

Sarah Pearson said...

This is what readers are for. When you post, we'll be here :-)

Laura Pauling said...

I recently cut back to two times a week. But before that I'd noticed a decrease in my Google reader - lots of people are blogging less. No worries.

Karen Lange said...

I have seriously considered only posting once a week (currently post twice). I think I need to just go ahead and do that, for I stress too much over getting two posts done, all the while not getting other important writing stuff done. All that to say, I understand. Take it easy, okay? :)

Tamara Narayan said...

I started out as three times a week, which dropped to two, and then I disappeared for several months. I'm doing the A-Z challenge to get reinspired, but it's taking a big toll on my writing time.

Blogging should be fun, not an obligation. I say relax and blog when you will. Your fan base will understand.

Bryan Russell said...

I just blog when and where I want. Makes life easier.

And I'm the world's least flexible person, so all those poses scare me.

Elana Johnson said...

Blogging is evolutionary by nature, so don't sweat it. I've gone through a million+one blogging experiences. You have to do what works best for you, and sometimes that means NOT blogging.

Linda Gray said...

Oh, Lydia, you are so busy, who can blame you?? And oooh, may I ask a question about this? I'm getting very close to starting another blog all my own (my Critique Sisters each have their own and have for a long time). My mind tells me once a week is the right choice. But when I look at what I'd like to cover, I think three times a week is what it will take. Can two times a week work?? Sheesh. I'm a mass of confusion. :( p.s. congrats on getting through the schweddy shins. You got your enlightenment, too!

Phoenix said...

How dare you put your own health, happiness, and sanity before your blog readers? Harumph. ;)

I totally, TOTALLY get it. There's been days where it's felt forced, so I didn't blog...there's been days when I just didn't have the time, so I didn't blog.

Go easy on yourself. Give yourself a break. You're human, and there are only so many hours left in a day. You're not a machine.

Breathe. Take it easy. And be gentle with yourself.

Brinda said...

It's a good decision. I may need to reassess after April. :) Bikram sounds totally horrendous. I'm trying to understand the draw.

Olga said...

Yoga is definitely stimulating to our muscles, and also our mental activity :)

Jennifer Hillier said...

You already know I totally feel you. It's hard to juggle everything with the same intensity all the time - there are times when you just have to cut back on certain things to make room for other things.

And yoga is great! Good for you. :)

Stina Lindenblatt said...

We respect you because you blog for the love of it, even if you aren't blogging three times a week. And we respect you even more because you can make like a pretzel in high heat. lol

Cold As Heaven said...

Forget about schedules and just blog when you have the time, or something you desperately want to say. That's the way I do it. Can't keep up with a schedule >:)

Cold As Heaven

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