Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Members Only

No, I never had a Member's Only jacket in the 80's. Not sure if that makes me cool now, or a dweeb then.

Lately, I've been part of a closed writers' forum on Facebook. I'm also part of a locked forum on Rallystorm. Though I'm also active in the Querytracker forums, there's something nice about being able to celebrate/complain/babble on a private forum.

It's been both a stress reliever as well as a place where I don't have to worry about asking stupid questions.

Do you belong to a locked forum online? Where do you go when you need to vent privately about writing, without the universe listening in?

45 comments:

Sarah said...

I don't belong to any forums. I tend to email a few close acquaintances with my news or my fears or whatever, and I provide support to my friends that way as well :)

Laura Pauling said...

I email with writing friends or talk on the phone with them. :) You iz cool. :)

E. Arroyo said...

I don't belong to any private ones. I vent in the car, alone. LOL And I think the universe does listen.

Natalie Aguirre said...

I don't belong to any forums that I really participate in. I'm too busy and it's hard enough to keep up with blogs.

Connie Keller said...

I don't belong to any forums. They sound fun though.

My writing friends get to hear about all my complaints, anxieties, and insecurities either by phone or email. And I pray.

DL Hammons said...

I used to dabble in forums, but that was before I started blogging seriously. But they were open forums, anybody could contribute. I use my Critique Partners when I need to vent...which isn't often.

KarenG said...

I've not been part of one but I can see where it might be helpful. I vent to my husband LOL, poor guy. I was part of a Facebook writing group but never did anything with it so bowed out.

Jessica Bell said...

That place is helpful, isn't it. :)

Stina Lindenblatt said...

I'm a member of several open forums but haven't visited them in a long while. Not since I've made tons of blogging friends.

I like our private forum. :)

B.E. Sanderson said...

I used to frequent a couple writers' forums - not sure if they were locked or not. I got tired of the infighting and general snertiness. Since then, I've tried to join others, but the magic is gone for me. If I need to vent privately, I either do inside the comfort of my home, or I have a couple writer friends I can email.

Little Ms. Fun said...

A few years ago when I was prepping for a spinal fusion surgery, I joined a scoliosis forum. I asked every single stupid question you could think of. There were always great responses from people who went through it already. I promised that after the surgery I would post about my recovery...but I was too high on meds and too much in pain to care. Maybe I'll venutre over there now...

Talli Roland said...

I'm with Laura - I email and call writer friends, then whine to them. Oh, the fun for them! :)

storyqueen said...

I think it's cool you have a private forum for such things...

the closest thing I have is an in-person writing group...but we meet very rarely these days.

Shelley

Carol Kilgore said...

I think a private forum would be wonderful. I have critique partners and dogs.

Laurel Garver said...

I'm thankful to belong to two crit groups that meet in person. I know I can always pick up the phone or IM when I need a little encouragement or to just vent.

mooderino said...

I tend to save my venting for real world acquaintances (lucky them). And then of course there's my blog. Once every couple of months I'll rail against something.

mood

Emily Rose said...

I don't belong to any private forum, but I can see where it would be nice.

Bossy Betty said...

No, but I do have a closet where I can go and talk to my blankets. Sometimes we let the pillows in, but only when they present their cases in a good way.

Slamdunk said...

Those are good resources.

No, my poor dog has to listen to my complaints and he is good as long as he gets his daily run.

Old Kitty said...

I talk to Charlie and email people who are used to my venting! LOL!

Take care
x

Elizabeth Varadan aka Mrs. Seraphina said...

I do belong to one closed forum on FB because I was invited in by a writer friend. But I don't visit it as often as I should. I belong to two face-to-face writer's groups, and those, plus writing, plus blogging, etc. keep me pretty busy. But I've been thinking lately that I should get more involved in this one. Your post is a nice nudge.

Southpaw said...

Nothing for me, but I can see how it would be nice.

David P. King said...

Interesting. I have not joined in on such a feature. Does sounds appealing. The problem is it's sure to suck up more time that I already don't have. It's worth investigating, though. :)

A Lady's Life said...

Now I seem to remember a Members only jacket.That was from way back and I didn't know they still made them.
I like blogging and really, there is not much I want to say in private since it will never be private once said.lol

cherie said...

I do belong to a couple of private forums, though lately, I haven't had time to visit either one of them or participate in the discussions. It's good to be involved in one because there are just some things we'd rather keep private but be able to talk to our friends about at the same time, without fear of the public's prying eyes. ;)

Critique Sisters said...

Though we've never belonged to a closed forum or anything like it, we do have the freedom of venting to each other. Just knowing that we can email one another~and our other close writing friends~bring such a sense of relief. Every writer needs that!

Suze said...

I vent in person with my closest friends, though I don't typically vent. I'm more a musing girl, I think.

Meredith said...

I've never even heard of locked forums--I'll have to check them out! I mainly vent in emails to my best friend. :)

Ghenet Myrthil said...

I've never heard of this either but it sounds cool! For now, I reach out to the writer friends I know in real life and vent/celebrate with them. :)

Krispy said...

Nope, no private online forums for me. I just complain to people in real life, haha, or through email. :)

Cynthia Chapman Willis said...

I've never tried the locked forums. When I need to vent or yap about writing and everything associated with it, I turn to my writing pals, both online and offline. Where would we be without our writing buddies? : )

Karen Lange said...

I just joined one and haven't participated much yet. I need to get on and check it out. Thanks for the reminder! :)

Vicki Rocho said...

I'm not participating in any forums at the moment. I can barely keep up with blogging and the WIP. When I need to vent, it's an email to a trusted soul or a phone call (because a phone call doesn't leave any evidence behind!)

Jennifer Hillier said...

I'm a member of Absolute Write but mostly lurk, and I haven't even really done that in the past year. I think it's super important, though, to have a way of talking to other writers and venting. Publishing is stressful, yo! And there's so much they don't tell you. Most of my venting these days takes place on the phone, with other writer friends. It's made all the difference in keeping me sane.

The Golden Eagle said...

Nope. I just rant to myself in a journal or complain to someone I know in person. :P

Accidentalwriter said...

I guess it boils down to what is the primary purpose we write for. I write for the pure pleasure it gives me. It doesn't really concern me whether it is good enough, or could be better. I am comfortable with the fact that it probably won't appeal to many people - yet another wonder of the diversity of life. It's probably very obvious that I don't rely on my writing for an income. This has also been the main reason that I have avoided 'formal' writing courses, etc. For me, writing is both a mystery and a journey - I just accept the next word which comes around the corner. I really appreciate the questions you raise Lydia. They prompt deep discussions between me, myself and I. Cheers

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm part of the BBTCafe group on Yahoo Groups. We're all authors and graduates of the BBT class.
And I have a black Members Only Jacket when I was younger. Yeah, I did.

JEFritz said...

Is it wrong that I don't know what a Members Only Jacket is? I guess I'm a bit too young for that one (I was a toddler in the late eighties).

I'm always a little nervous about posting in forums when I'm in a venting mood. On the internet, nothing is ever really gone and I'd hate for my big mouth to get me in trouble. Phone calls are more satisfying anyway.

Lenny Lee* said...

hi miss lydia! i didnt ever hear of a locked forum. yikes! i dont think i could wanna be locke up with people when i got a lotta venting to do. ack! for me i mostly go out in the wood back of our house and talk to the squirrels & birds and at night to the raccoons. sometime i use my slingshot and shoot peanuts to the squirrels or shoot them so they smash then on trees if im real mad.then the squirrels dont gotta peal them. ha ha.
...hugs from lenny

Miranda Hardy said...

I'm not a member of an online private forum, but I vent to my writing partner. Her ear is probably about to fall off. Not really. I just enjoy writing and I won't let anything ruin that love. I will, however, complain now and again about my publishing fears.

Bryan Russell said...

Isn't that what accidental mass e-mailings are for?

LTM said...

I never had a Members Only jacket either! Another thing for the list...

Yeah, I'm in one of those closed FB writers forums (so are you!) But I still don't feel comfortable ranting anywhere but in private, one on one emails. Or in person with poor hubs...

:D It's tough. Hope things are going well for you, my friend! <3

Chris Phillips said...

I tried to join those, but they said I wasn't cool enough. :sniffle:

vbtremper said...

I vent to writing friends via email. Sometimes I vent to my husband, but he doesn't really get it. No matter how you do it, it's really important to have someone private to let those feelings out to. Don't keep them bottled in, and don't let them explode all over the internet.

Amie Kaufman said...

I'm not a member of any locked forums, but I can see the value -- my venting tends to happen via email and IM!

 
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