Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Why Being Impatient is Good


Impatience is a terrible trait to have, they say.

After all, patience is a virtue, right?

And the publishing industry is snail-paced, so we must be patient.

But I'll tell you why impatience isn't a four letter word.

I have a friend who's suffering from an illness. And she's impatient to get better. I wasn't sure what to say to make her feel better. This is what came out:

"But impatience means you have a goal. And you want that goal to happen, soon. And it means you'll keep working towards that goal, that you haven't given up. That's good right?"

And it is.

I mean, I'm not saying if you're patient, you don't care. But impatience is proof positive that you have a passion for a goal.

So cheers to all you impatient people out there, like myself. Revel in it.

I'm raising my glass to you!

Also, please take a moment to visit Deb Salisbury's blog on how to deal with the waiting that comes with querying. Check out previous posts from Laura, myself, and Sarah!

46 comments:

Sarah said...

You're absolutely right, Lydia. I think one of the differences is the amount of distress being impatient causes, both to us, and sometimes to people around us, when circumstances are completely out of our control. However--all emotions are adaptive, and impatience/eagerness are certainly sources of motivation and action!

Laura Pauling said...

I call that kind impatience - drive. And that is a good thing.

Christine Danek said...

I knew I was impatient for a reason. Finally, some good words for impatience.
Thanks.

KatieO said...

LOL, thanks for turning impatience into its own kind of virtue ;-)

mooderino said...

I can't deal with impatience, it always drive me nuts, so I try to let it go as much as possible. I'm still keen to do things for myself, but when it comes to waiting on someone else to do their part - grrrr.

mood
Moody Writing
@mooderino

Old Kitty said...

I like this kind of positive impatience!!! :-) May it drive you onwards and ever upwards! take care
x

B.E. Sanderson said...

Thanks for your excellent take on impatience. Now I can feel less guilty about being the impatient person I am. =o)

Liza said...

What a nice perspective on a word that gets trashed. Perhaps we could change "impatient" to "eager" and make folks happy all the way around.

Connie Keller said...

What about calling it "enthusiastic"? I'm very enthusiastic.

E. Arroyo said...

Nice twist. LOL.

Bossy Betty said...

THANK YOU! Finally Someone sees one of my major traits as good. What took you so long to write this, anyway?

Stephen Tremp said...

Thanks! I'll drink to that. Coffee, at least. Its early here. And here's hoping your friend has a most healthy recovery.

Carol Kilgore said...

Yay! Finally a shout-out for all of us antsy, hurry-up-already people!

Linda Gray said...

What an excellent way to look at impatience—as proof of passion. Focus it productively and you've really got something! Wishing the best for your friend; may her impatience pay off in a beautiful way.

Laila Knight said...

Cheers to you too! And I love your point of view. I must possess quite a few goals then. :)

Cynthia Chapman Willis said...

This is wonderful! I am very impatient, so I needed to read this. Cheers to you, too! : )

Talli Roland said...

I like the way you think!

Roland D. Yeomans said...

Great thought-provoking post once again. I am of the mind that you must learn to be patient else you become one!

Passion is the word and mindset I prefer. Impatience leads often to ill-planned, hasty courses of action.

Apaches sneered at the white man in a tense stand-off, for he had no patience to wait for the right time, to endure the moment's anxiety in order to let the window of opportunity open as it always will.

No great painting is done all at once -- but a brush-stroke at a time. No great novel is written overnight -- but one carefully selected word, one polished sentence at a time.

But, hey, I'm not selling like Amanda Hocking or John Locke, so what do I know? LOL. Roland

Bryce Daniels said...

What a great take on this! And here I thought I was being childish. I like the way you think!

Krispy said...

Hmmm, I never looked at it that way, but I like it! Very good point.

Sarah said...

Very true! Couldn't agree more. I think it's that restlessness and need to accomplish our goals (soon!) that gets so many writers writing.

Carol Riggs said...

Ah, great point. Yay for passion!! And double-yay for goals!!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Now that is a positive spin on the word!

Elizabeth Varadan aka Mrs. Seraphina said...

Positive impatience. Proof of passion. What a great perspective!

Corey Schwartz said...

I love to quote my friend Tiffany who says, "I have no time for patience!"

Giles Hash said...

I can TOTALLY agree with that :)

Bethany Elizabeth said...

I LOVE that perspective. :)

K.M. Weiland said...

Now that's a slant I haven't before, and (being an impatient person) I love it! I couldn't agree more. Impatience, when harnessed, can be a tremendous driving force in an author's life. If we're content to wait forever on something, nothing will ever get accomplished.

julie fedderson said...

You are absolutely right. Whoever said patience is a virtue can suck it. I'm going to celebrate my passionate, impatient nature--because the (goal-driven) sinners are much more fun. . . *cues Billy Joel's Only the Good Die Young*

M Pax said...

I've never been patient, but always tenacious. :) Cheers to you, Lydia.

Shelley Munro said...

I like the way you think, Lydia. That is the perfect way to look at impatience and, suddenly, I'm glad I suffer from it.

I have lots of impatience in relation to my writing. ;-)

Leslie Rose said...

Like your take on the subject. Impatience can make us scattered. It's good to keep setting those goals. I just learned that with hip replacement surgery. I was impatient to dump the walker and get back on my feet, so I did it in just over a week.

Alleged Author said...

Ah, Impatience, thy name is Author. How amazing that we find ourselves growing impatient with the journey to writing yet there are people waiting for things so much more detrimental to their lives. Sometimes the whole idea gives me pause...

Great post as always, girlie! You are my muse. :)

Slamdunk said...

Well said Lydia.

I think using what can be a negative like impatience as a postive in motivating us is beneficial; especially during the most difficult times.

catherinemjohnson said...

Great point and I love that clock :)

Steph said...

I must remember this the next time I chastise myself for being impatient. Perhaps it will help me figure out what my goals truly are!

kelworthfiles said...

I think I probably have too much patience.


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Murugi Njehia said...

This kind of makes me feel better coz i am always being told im impatient..mkes me feel real good and i mean ..REAL GOOD! I like your blog, i am a new follwer for sure. :):)

Mark Noce said...

I never quite thought about impatience that way. I'll amend it to say that I'll be impatient with progress, but still patient with people;) Cool blog:)

Olga said...

Great post and great point! This is very positive thought!

LTM said...

ahhh... ((BIG HUGS)) I love my doctor-friend who makes me get all misty unexpectedly. As well as glad I'm terribly impatient. Thanks for making it a good thing, and this was a fantastic post~ :o) <3

Michelle Teacress said...

Cheers! I admire people with passion for something - even when it comes out as impatience. :)

Suze said...

I have been afflicted with a very special strain of impatience. It's impatience to have the shoe drop, one way or the other, and I often end up with the shoe forced into the wrong direction as a result. :(

Ghenet Myrthil said...

You make a really good point! My impatience does keep me moving forward.

Michelle Fayard said...

Finally, validation for what I've often had called a character flaw!

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Jai Joshi said...

Since my lack of patience is legendary in certain quarters, I'm relieved to read this. Patience is a virtue but impatience can be a virtue too - when I'm not screaming at someone to hurry up.

Jai

 
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